Building a good relationship/marriage is like building a wall: it’s done brick by brick. And the mortar that holds it together is unconditional, un-condemning, unselfish love. The only way you’ll know how good a job you’ve done is when it’s tested by the storms of life. “One” of the most important keys to succeeding in relationship is communication. So:
• Become creative: spend time together. Call your partner during the day and try to meet sometimes for lunch. Communication can happen anywhere, but it won’t happen unless you make it a priority.
• Identify communication killers. Internet (facebook), cell phones (blackberry users), TV (series addicts) are the chief culprits. The average couple spends less than three hours a week in ‘meaningful’ communication; they spend five times more on other stuff.
• Encourage every member to speak their mind. And when they do, don’t criticize or retaliate. Differences of opinion are healthy. Handled right, they can make things better.
• Be conscious of how you interact with your partner. You may have unwittingly adopted a style that stifles communication. Stop and consider; do you: a) retaliate- that has a degrading effect b) dominate- that has an intimidating effect c) Isolate- that has a frustrating effect d) cooperate- that has an encouraging effect. If you’re in the habit of using any communication style other than a cooperative one, start working immediately to change it. You’ll have, if you want to build a good relationship with your family.
Thank You!
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