How To Cope with Unreturned Love

Sometimes the person you're in love with doesn't love you back. Believe it or not, it happens to almost everybody. I have experienced it a couple of times and God forgive me, am also guilty of this crime. In any case, unrequited love is painful, especially if the two of you had been all lovey dovey. It can even feel like torture. Now how do you make the best of such a situation?

• Limit the amount of time you spend with the person who doesn't love you. If you can, don't see them for a while.
• Come to terms with the fact that they don't share your romantic feelings. You need to accept that it's just not meant to be so you can move on with your life.
• Stay busy. Take up a new hobby such as reading, going to the movies or even shopping (when I upset or feel hurt shopping for anything relieves me). Start a sports or work your frustrations out through exercise. It doesn't matter whether it's running, swimming or skipping: Find something you like and commit yourself to it. Both your body and your heart will feel better.
• Surround yourself with those who do love you. This could be your parents, siblings, relatives. Don't be afraid to ask them for a little bit of extra moral support.
• Hang around with friends who make you laugh. Chances are, at least one of your friends is brilliant at getting your mind off of the person who's causing you pain. Let them help you not take life too seriously.
• Take some time each day to focus on a few of your good qualities, those attributes that would make any man or woman want to be with you. Remind yourself that you're a great person even if someone out there doesn't like you in a romantic way. Think about what other qualities you'd like to have -- more confidence, better taste in whatever, patience, a listening ear, etc. -- and set some goals about attaining them.
• Remind yourself that it would not be any fun to be with someone who didn't feel as strongly about you as you did about them. Think about what love should be like and notice how equality plays a big part. You deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated!
• Remember another emotionally difficult situation you've been through and how you got through it. Adopt some of the strategies you used in that situation to help you heal from this heartbreak.
• Take a little time to nurture yourself, whether it's with a few good books or movies, some extra time with friends or simply getting a bit more sleep.
• When you're ready, start hanging out with other people you'd consider dating. Give yourself the chance to fall in love again and you undoubtedly will.