STOP Dating That Married Man!!!

You love dating married men because you are dumb. You think that he actually cares about you. You think that you are special. That you are unique. Even worst, you think that he is special, that he is unique. Oh wait, what’s even more special and unique then that is that you think that you are the only special and unique person that he is cheating on his wife with. The word special should not apply to you, him or your relationship. The only “S” word that applies to you is that you are stupid. The word unique should not apply to you, him or your relationship. . . The only “U” word that applies is . . . is . . . I can’t think of a good “U” word that applies so you are stupid times two.

You loooooove dating married men because they are smooooo-with-a-ve. They know what they are doing. They are affectionate. They are attentive. They are sensitive. They are understanding. They are passionate. They are practicing with their wife what to perform with you. That doesn’t bother you at all? They are trained. The wife has put in the time to train a man to her likes and desires and it just so happens that you were never woman enough to train your own man. You thought that a man would be delivered to you in an unwrapped package. You knew and accepted right up front that you were not woman enough to build your own marriage so you would rather destroy someone else’s. You wanted to skip the blood, sweat and tears of the early years of marriage. You are so stupid! He don’t love you, he just loves being away from his wife. YOU DON’T MATTER. You are convenient. You are accepting. You only require and deserve one day a week. Easy, that’s what you are.

You try to justify it but it ain’t right. You do justify it but it still ain’t right! It doesn’t matter what he tells you. Lies have never mattered. It doesn’t matter that he is unhappy at home. I bet he is happier than you are. It doesn’t matter that he is your baby daddy or your co-worker or your ex-boyfriend or your ex-fiancé. It is not right. How can you not put yourself in the shoes of his wife? I know you want to, but can you? (<- Slow down, read it again. I have been thinking on this article for a minute so I might be just a smidget too deep. The word play is ferocious! Hova get at me!)

I know you want to, but can you?

I know you want to be his wife, but can you be a wife?

Can you think about how she would feel if she knew? Would you resort to fisticuffs if it were you? Would you want to kick her. . . ?

Oh, I understand, he is separated so that makes it ALL-right. Oh, I understand, he is staying for the kids so that makes it ALL-right. Oh, I understand, they don’t live together so that makes it ALL-right. Oh, I understand, he told you he was separated, he lied, so that makes it ALL-right. I am tired of the free pass that is being handed out to women that date married men. All of those Tiger Woods tricks knew he was married. LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE! They should not have got a dime. The media bashed Bill Clinton and felt sorry for Monica Lewinsky. THAT WOMAN KNEW FULL WELL WHAT SHE HAD IN HER MOUTH!!!

That husband that you loooooooove dating don’t love you and he is not leaving his wife for you. You are being used. You are a stand in or a “lay-in”. (<- Ok, that was wack.) He is only doing what he has been trained to do. There is a reason why he is more attentive than the average single man. There is a reason why he is more affectionate than the average single man. There is a reason why he is more sensitive than the average single man. There is a reason why he is more caring than the average single man. There is a reason why he is more thoughtful than the average single man. There is a reason why you are more stupid than the average single woman. And that reason is because you looooooooove dating married men.

Woman's Worth!

Sooooooooo....

a whyl back, I think it was sometime this week, I read a post on Sisi's blog and I was urged to blog...but when I started, something came up and I had to leave.

To cut the long story short, I've been trying to blog for a while now and I'm either, too tired, too lazy or too busy. My mid-year resolution is to try and make my posts as short as possible because I find that when I do my blog rounds, it can be overwhelming to see extremely long posts...esp. with my burst of excitement, it bogs me down, quite a bit.

As you might have suspected all the gist I had for you has pretty much reduced because I didn't say them as soon as they came.

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Sisi's post was rather upsetting...

ah ahn...ladies, don't you know your value? as in really?

We carry such favour, should walk with great dignity, understand that we are more than a useless piece of crap that a guy can use and toss whenever he feels.

Given, many of us might have uselessed ourselves to a point where we think we are worth absolutely nothing but it is still no reason to keep the cycle of worthlessness going. The fact that you've done something or many things wrong in the past doesn't mean that you can't pick up your mess and toss it out...then start afresh. The original intent of a woman is to be a blessing to a man, to add value to him, to complement him, to be his helper, to be his thing or person of joy, of pride...not something he walks all over and then tosses out after one use because there are many others in line.

Forget there are too few men around, cock and bull, piece of crap story. Even if the men are slowly becoming extinct, yours would still be around.

A man that cannot look at you, displaying you to the world like you're his treasure is not worth you putting yourself out there for.

At the same time, there are guys who women walk all over...let's not discount the truth. Men are also made to feel like they are not worth the woman, so I would say this...If there is a man or woman that feels that you are lucky to have them, they best hit the road asap, cuz there is that person who would find you as a prize worth being flaunted to the public...and it would be a shame that when he or she comes around, you're busy galivanting with a riff-raff that thinks you're worth less than the cheapest thing he/she owns.

Get a clue!

Your value is beyond rubies/gold/diamonds.

Clean up yourself and be patient till you meet someone who looks you in the eye and says something as simple as "I LOVE YOU" and it sparks up every muscle/(everything sparkable) in your body. An "I love you" that carries soo much weight in actions, in gifts, in words, in expression...that's what you should wait for.

Against popular belief, the right one WILL come!

Mr. A's story would not be yours...stop looking at everyone else and comparing yourself to them.

Let God write your love story.